Hmm...

I think I like him.

To settle or not to settle: That is the question.

I got this article from a friend today and I found it quite interesting.

In this article, the author( who is a woman) suggests that women who desire marriage need to settle. She suggests this for women who are 30ish and older.

One issue I have is that there is never much talk about men settling. In most cases the man is not settling, he's getting a good thing. There are some men who may settle for a woman who may not be the prettiest, but she possesses some domestic skills that may seem appealing to the man.

Another issue was the suggestion that women are too picky or standards are too high. Why is it that women are too picky or standards are too high when they want certain things? If a man wants a women with certain standards, nothing is wrong with that. It's that old double standard.

I think the biggest issue I have with the article was the moms who were encouraging their daughters to settle. What ever happened to a mom wanting what's best for her daughter? Is settling what's best? I am not sure.

What happened to trusting God to give you the desire of your hearts? I guess after a certain age, that goes out the window with the bath water. I am not an advocate for anyone settling. I think it sets women up for a life of misery. It is okay to compromise, but not your beliefs. When women start to do that, I believe they lose sight of who they are.

Goodbye 2009!

Today is the last day of 2009. I am grateful to still be here through all of my trials and tribulations. I am looking forward to new things in 2010.

This year I realized a few things and I am grateful for those revelations. I am waiting and anticipating great things! I know God has a purpose and a plan and once it comes to pass, people will know it was Him!

Happy New Year to all!!!!!

I couldn't make this up if you paid me.

I recently got an invitation to a birthday party. I wasn't sure if I was going to attend or not. As I was riding in the car with my friends, we realized that there was another party at the same venue. At the time, I didn't know that the person who sent me the invite was having their party at someone else's party. We figured it out in the car.

Now my question is, who does that? I mean really. How tacky are you to send out invites for your celebration at someone else's event? That isn't the worst part. The next day, I got a thank you text for coming out to celebrate this person's birthday (at someone else's party). This is just wrong and tacky on so many levels. Have you any integrity?

Am I now classified as a cougar?

I met this guy the other day who is a little younger than I am. I figured he was younger, I just didn't know how young. Anyway, he was very persistent in me calling him. I was a bit apprenhensive, but I did. We went out and I had a good time. He actually seems more mature than what I expected.

I guess my question is, does this classify me as a cougar?

It doesn't end!

The other night I was coming in from class and as I was turning the corner I saw my neighbor walking his dog. By the time I parked the car, he was in front of my house motioning for me to hurry up and get out of the car. I was on the phone with my sister and had already told her what he was doing. So she got off the phone with me and when I got out of the car, I asked him "How do you know I wasn't trying to plan my get away?" Why did this fool ask me "Where are we going?" I said "Three's a crowd!" Then he had the nerve to say, "Oh, I'm three?" Um, you may be number one to your wife, but not to me!

I was disgusted by this and I should have slapped him clear into next week!

It's unbelievable

For the people who have been following my blog for sometime, I've often shared the good, the bad, and the ugly as it relates to my experiences dating. Well, I've got some more comical things to share.

There was this guy who was sweating me HARD for a year. I believe he was living with someone and they had a small child, and I guess he thought I wouldn't mind. I was not interested in him for other reasons, but that just added fuel to the fire. One day I saw him out and he kept on trying to pursue me. When he finished talking to me, my sister said" He really likes you a lot".

Well, the other day, I checked my e-mail and he sent me an e-mail to see how I was doing and told me he got married and sent the link to the wedding pictures. I was too tickled. When he was trying to get with me, he was planning a wedding. LOL I hope this means he will stop trying.

Then there is this other guy I used to date who dumped me because he said that it was too much pressure. I'm not sure who was pressuring him, but it wasn't me. When I mentioned this to some male friends they all told me that was a bunch of bullshit!(Which I already knew.) If he's a man and he can't handle you, that's not a real man or the kind of man you want/need to be with. Just imagine what he'll do when things really get tough.

I wasn't too surprised by this guy or his actions. When I met him, I told him that he wasn't ready for me, but he tried to convince himself that he was. He had also made some other decisions that let me know he lacked maturity.

In both of these situations, I believe the males were only doing as they knew. It is unfortunate that so many women will put up with this type of tomfoolery. One of my mantras has always been "what one man won't do, another will." This is true of women and that's why a lot of men do the things they do.